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December Stepmom Magazine...

Published by Wednesday Martin

The December Issue of Stepmom magazine is here (www.stepmommag.com)! Lots of great reading as you gear up for your winter holiday nervous breakdown — Mary Kelly provides a priceless window onto an ex-wife's (temporary) divorce regret; the sassy and hilarious Belle Mere remembers her first Christmas with sprogs; Erin Erickson on being a heavy-lifting "single" stepmom whose husband is out of town more often than not; Peggy Nolan on a stepfamily wedding; therapists/authors/experts Jacque Fletcher, Susan Swanson and Susan Wisdom all share their wisdom on topics from holiday survival to Mad Men; party girl Izzy Rose gives tips on how to do it right; I write about avoiding holiday stepmartyr syndrome; and Joel Schwartzberg tells divorced and remarried dads what they owe their partners — that would be US! There's more where that came from. Believe it. Buy it. Read it.


How Are You Feeling about the Holiday Season?

Published by Wednesday Martin
Holidays can be extra stressful if you think you have to make everything perfect in a stepfamily!
Holidays can be extra stressful if you think you have to make everything perfect in a stepfamily!


Do the impending holidays have you feeling extra stressed? You're not alone. At holiday time, stepfamilies may deal with issues — kids in loyalty binds "boycotting" dad and stepmom; an unsupportive ex reneging on a holiday schedule; couples feeling splintered by his excitement to see the very kids who might be hostile and rejecting toward her — that first families don't even have to think about. And stepmom — the culturally-designated "blending agent" of the stepfamily — is likely to feel the pressure most of all.


Stepmonster at JCC in Tenafly, NJ

Published by Wednesday Martin
Come listen to a talk and Q&A; session on stepfamily life!
Come listen to a talk and Q&A; session on stepfamily life!

Are you a New Jersey or New York City stepmom, stepfamily member, or just curious about stepfamily life? Come listen to my talk at the JCC of the Palisades this Thursday evening!


Have Teen Stepkids? Take Heart!

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Dealing with teen stepkids can polarize the couple. Read what does Susan Wisdom, author of Stepcoupling, has to say.
Dealing with teen stepkids can polarize the couple. Read what does Susan Wisdom, author of Stepcoupling, has to say.


Susan Wisdom, author of Stepcoupling, wrote a guest post on my Psychology Today blog today. Hope you'll have a read...and leave a comment:


When and Why the Kids Don't Come First

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If the partnership gets shunted to the back burner whenever his kids are around, it's a recipe for resentment and martial/stepfamily tension
If the partnership gets shunted to the back burner whenever his kids are around, it's a recipe for resentment and martial/stepfamily tension

I would love your thoughts on my new piece on stepmothering for the Huffington Post: please post a comment!


A Divorced Dad Falls in Love — and Builds a Wall

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Hi Readers, You know how I love Martin Babits, L.C.S.W., and author of The Middle Ground: A Couple's Guide to Renewing Your Relationship (http://www.amazon.com/Power-Middle-Ground-Renewing-Relationship/dp/1591026628/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s;=books&qid;=1256606628&sr;=8-1). Marty is a divorced dad, and here's what he has to say about a recent very important project — building a wall in his apartment once things got serious with his partner. The wall is going up today! Read the piece — and then leave a comment letting Martin know what you think of what he's doing:


Elizabeth Saitta, Artist

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The wedding dress — an overdetermined signifier for those of us who marry a man with children
The wedding dress — an overdetermined signifier for those of us who marry a man with children

I learned about Elizabeth Saitta's work on a trip to Boston. She is an art teacher married to a man with children from a previous marriage. She recently earned her MFA from the Massachusetts College of Art and Design.