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Permissive Parenting Makes Life Hell for Stepmothers — Amy Chua's Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mom

Published by Wednesday Martin
Amy Chua has it out for permissive parents. So do I!
Amy Chua has it out for permissive parents. So do I!

What happens to kids when parents are permissive and indulgent? Research suggests that they are lower functioning across several measures — socially, emotionally, and academically — and they certainly aren't much fun to be around. This is a legacy they bring with them into adulthood; many of today's twenty-somethings, researchers like Ron Taffel note, were raised with so much indiscriminate and unwarranted praise, and so few appropriate boundaries and rules, that they have an inflated sense of their own importance and achievements, and unrealistic expectations not only within their own family system, but also in the world (I am reminded of a nanny candidate with a B.A. but zero full-time nanny experience who told me she "required" an outrageous salary — in cash — "in order to be happy")


Co-Parenting On CBS Early Show Wednesday September 15

Published by Wednesday Martin
When it's not like this, everyone benefits...
When it's not like this, everyone benefits...


My friend Deesha Philyaw and her Co-Parenting Radio co-hosts will be featured on CBS's Early Show Wednesday a.m. Divorce and remarriage with children plus stepparenting on national news — how do you like that? Have a look:


Father's Day Fun...and Fun Facts about Fathers and Fatherhood

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Dad's involvement makes a huge difference.
Dad's involvement makes a huge difference.


The Council on Contemporary Families, a think tank on family life that I looooovvvveeeeeee, recently sent out a mailing all about fathers and Father's Day. As a lover of research-based insight (and trivia), I wanted to share. Happy Father's Day to the Dads and Stepdads reading. As a group you are more involved with your children and stepchildren than ever before, and making an unprecedented impact on not only your sons and daughters, but on the footprint of fathering more generally. You're changing the way your children will parent. I love you!


Boundaries 101: Lessons for Stepmothers by Mary Kelly-Williams

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This makes it look so simple
This makes it look so simple

Today I'm running a special guest post by Mary Kelly-Williams, MA, a therapist and stepmother in Boulder, CO about boundaries. You need them if you're a woman with stepkids, but sometimes it's hard to know how to maintain them, how to assert them, for fear of being disliked or perceived as wicked. Here's Mary on how and why it's important to have your boundaries in the stepfamily, and protect them. Otherwise, you'll likely find yourself exhausted, depleted, and resentful. Have a read...and leave a comment!


Is Your Teen Step/Child Addicted to the Internet?

Published by Wednesday Martin
How much internet/FB/Twitter/IMing is too much?
How much internet/FB/Twitter/IMing is too much?

Ever wonder if your/your partner's teen (or you) might actually be not only really into social media, but addicted to it? Today on my psychologytoday.com blog, check out the special guest post by Dr. Stephanie Newman...and leave a comment!