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Childless and Child Free Women with Stepchildren — What are the Issues? And Kim Cottrell asks, "Which term shall we use?"

Published by Wednesday Martin
Have a listen, post a comment
Have a listen, post a comment

Here's a link to a radio interview I recently did with stepfamily therapist Mary Kelly-Williams, M.A. of marriedwithbaggage.com on her Blog Talk Radio show. We discussed childless and childfree women with stepchildren, their particular issues and challenges. Hope you will have a listen! Separately, blogger Kim Cottrell wonders "What to call us? Childfree sounds egocentric, childless sounds deprived." What do you think? Do we need a new term?


Workshop on What Matters to YOU

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Hope to see you there...
Hope to see you there...

What are your biggest concerns and issues regarding your parntership with a man with kids (and and ex)? Tell me about it. I will be co-conducting a workshop with stepfamily expert Dr. Rachelle Katz on Saturday September 24 in NYC. Register by clicking here...and tell us about your biggest issue in the comments section below...


Stepmothers in History and Prehistory...In Stepmom Magazine

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Plus, she probably had stepkids
Plus, she probably had stepkids

The September issues of StepMom Magazine has posted! In it you will find all kinds of informative and helpful articles by stepmothers and stepparenting experts who walk the walk. Mary Kelly Williams on the importance of the couple bond. Heather Hetchler on loyalty binds. Susan Swanson on why women with stepkids need social support — and good girlfriends. And Susan Wisdom in stepparenting teens. And much much more. I do recommend you subscribe today because knowledge is power, and can make this gig a lot less insanity-inducing!


What to do about a stepchild in a loyalty bind? How about...less!

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If his kids are in a loyalty bind, take care of YOU
If his kids are in a loyalty bind, take care of YOU

Joanne Richard wrote this article about stepchildren and adult stepchildren in loyalty binds and what a stepmother "should" do to improve the situation. My answer was...nothing! Joanne also quotes my colleague and good friend Dr. Rachelle Katz, author of The Happy Stepmother, one of the only reasearch-based books out there for stepmothers other than my own. Hope you will have a read...and leave a comment.


Happy Other's Day

Published by Wednesday Martin
Don't fall into the trap of thinking you need to be 'another mother' to his kids
Don't fall into the trap of thinking you need to be 'another mother' to his kids

No, that's not a typo. Some of you who read my blog are mothers who also have stepchildren. Some of you are straight up stepmothers, and today is likely more complicated for you than it is for those stepmothers who also have kids of their own.