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From Horridays to Holidays — Tips for Step"families"

Published by Wednesday Martin
There is no one right way this holiday season!
There is no one right way this holiday season!

It's holiday time. And when we think holidays, we think family. Of course today, "family" is increasingly likely to refer to stepfamilies, the fastest growing domestic arrangement in the US and Great Britain.


Why Do We Send Photo Portraits of our Kids for the Holidays?

Published by Wednesday Martin
These contemporary artifacts demonstrate that children, our most precious possessions, are on display during the holidays
These contemporary artifacts demonstrate that children, our most precious possessions, are on display during the holidays

Across the country, it's holiday time. That means holiday cards. These cards often highlight family and particularly children. Usually the card itself is a family portrait, or a portrait of the kids. Ever wonder why?


Dad's getting wed? How to cope as an adult stepchild

Published by Wednesday Martin
When Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles married eight years ago, these royals did something utterly common: they formed a uniquely modern stepfamily.
When Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles married eight years ago, these royals did something utterly common: they formed a uniquely modern stepfamily.

When Prince Charles and Camilla Parker Bowles married eight years ago, these royals did something utterly common. They formed a stepfamily of a particular sort - one uniquely modern, every day more widespread yet significantly “under the radar.” Each had adult offspring - the now-Duchess’s son was 31 and her daughter 27, while Princes William and Harry were 22 and 20, respectively. 


Interview on Stepfamily Central

Published by Wednesday Martin
Talking through stepfamily dynamics with Rachelle Katz...
Talking through stepfamily dynamics with Rachelle Katz...

Dr. Rachelle Katz has a new radio show on Stepfamily Central and I was lucky to be her first guest. We talked about the word "blended" and the need for public support for and a public education campaign about what stepfamilies are really like. Hope you will have a listen...


Piling the pressure on women in stepfamilies this holiday season....

Published by Wednesday Martin
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season

I have heard from a number of you about Judith Graham's story in the Dec 24th issue of the New York Times health section. This is the kind of story the media loves, about "co-wives" who get along great and become BFFs. Sure, it's a nice and heartwarming story of one woman caring for another. Unfortunately, the media's fixation with these types of stories about "the ex wife and the new wife who are best pals," and the readers' comments — "Most divorced people I know stay friends after," etc. — naively and damagingly imply that repartnership with children is "easy" if everybody is just "nice." And that, if you don't have your parnter's ex for the holidays (or to your wedding), and if you aren't "close," there is something "wrong" with you.