For women marrying or partnering with men with kids, the wedding or commitment ceremony can get complicated. Some women like Elizabeth Saitta (see post below) and I elope to keep it simple — while others go for the whole shindig. I get emails every week from women asking, "Do I have to invite my husband's ex to the wedding?" and "What if his kids have a meltdown?"

How did you handle your wedding or commitment ceremony? How did it go? Would you do it differently if you could do it again?