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Why back to school is harder for you than it is for your kids....

Published by Wednesday Martin

The tribe of privileged parents I study and write about in my upcoming book Primates of Park Avenue (Simon & Schuster, June 2015) mostly summers in the Hamptons. But wherever you are for June, July, and August, you may be feeling the Dreads about Labor Day approaching. Anthropology gives us new ways to understand and handle the back-to-school, post vacation, return-to-regular-life Fall segue.... Hope you will have a read!


It's Summer. Are your kids at camp?

Published by Wednesday Martin
The notion that childhood is a time for play and formalized education is new
The notion that childhood is a time for play and formalized education is new

Are your kids at camp? Did you go to camp? When I was growing up in Michigan, sleep away camp was not a big thing. But now that I'm a Manhattan mommy, I'm surrounded by parents who send their kids to "sleep away" for all or part of the summer. Day camp is popular, too. On my Psychology Today blog, I write about why we send our kids away for the summer.....


It's June! Time for Intensive Motherhood!!

Published by Wednesday Martin

I have an eye twitch as I write this. I usually focus on the ways the tribe of Manhattan women with kids I study is different from other moms across the country and around the world. But in June I am reminded of the many similarities between contemporary privileged Manhattan childhood and motherhood and regular old childhood and motherhood in the midwest where I grew up several decades ago.


When will the rain stop?

Published by Wednesday Martin
The tulips in the median of Park Avenue are here! Every year they herald gala season...not to mention spring. The rain is unrelenting as I write this--three days in a row of downpour. But here are the tulips. Happy Spring.
The tulips in the median of Park Avenue are here! Every year they herald gala season...not to mention spring. The rain is unrelenting as I write this--three days in a row of downpour. But here are the tulips. Happy Spring.

The tulips in the median of Park Avenue are back, a sure sign of spring. And a reminder that Park Avenue was at one point actually a park (before that, Park Avenue was actually a route for the New York and Harlem Rail Line. When Grand Central Depot opened in the 1870s, the rail line was sunk and covered with grates and greenery). To me the careful tending of this median — begonias in the summer, Christmas trees in the winter, sculptures in the fall — speaks volumes about the Upper East Side — its careful tended-to-ness and embrace of the traditional and the immaculate.


An Open Letter to Glamorous Mommies Everywhere: Eat something. Please. I dare you.

Published by Wednesday Martin
Peaches Geldof, beautiful skinny mother of two. Dead person. Coincidence?
Peaches Geldof, beautiful skinny mother of two. Dead person. Coincidence?

Peaches Geldof died, possibly of starvation. Maybe something else was going on, too. But her death, which leaves her family bereft and two little boys motherless, is a springboard for thinking about high pressure, glamorous motherhood and the standards that stress women with kids and even put them in danger. Messing up your electrolytes can give you a heart attack. Did you know that?


Playground Partners Luncheon

Published by Wednesday Martin

The annual Playground Partners Luncheon took place at the Boathouse in Central Park recently. It was a snowy day, but that did not reduce turnout at this popular event. Like grooming behaviors among female  papio cynocephalus (savannah baboons), attending events is an affiliative, pro-social behavior that promotes group and dyadic cohesion. We're weren't picking bugs off each other, but we may as well have been. In attending these events, talking to one another and eating and drinking together, asking about outfits and kids and work, we are essentially reassuring, connecting with and touching one another.


Fashion Friday

Published by Wednesday Martin
In the West we have special clothing for kids, as well as toys, kids’ movies, special food/menus for them and more. All these things serve to define our particular, peculiar version of “childhood,” and separate children and the world of children from the rest of society.
In the West we have special clothing for kids, as well as toys, kids’ movies, special food/menus for them and more. All these things serve to define our particular, peculiar version of “childhood,” and separate children and the world of children from the rest of society.

Who doesn't like Fridays? For many Manhattan parents, Friday is a "partial day" or even a "half day" — because lots of Manhattan private schools have noon dismissal every Friday. At my sons' nursery school, we used to refer to Friday as "Daddy Drop Off Day" because that practice is so common at that particular school — and so many others.


Photo of the Day, Why I love Dutch parents, and NYC happenings

Published by Wednesday Martin
Our Dutch friend’s daughter wore this dress when we met up at the bar at the Mark Hotel. People were really surprised to see the kids there — we have created separate spheres for adults and kids in the industrialized West. How could anyone fail to notice or admire my friend’s daughter’s dress and sparkly headband?
Our Dutch friend’s daughter wore this dress when we met up at the bar at the Mark Hotel. People were really surprised to see the kids there — we have created separate spheres for adults and kids in the industrialized West. How could anyone fail to notice or admire my friend’s daughter’s dress and sparkly headband?

There is so much I love about this photo. As the mother of two boys, I swoon over everything pink, sparkly and girlie. Fortunately my youngest son used to love dress up, including princess attire. And I have twin god daughters. As to this photo, a little context: a Dutch friend was in town and we suggested a meet up at the bar at the Mark Hotel. I love the Mark Hotel. The location on E. 77th St is perfect as far as I'm concerned — the "near east side" is easy for a West Sider and gives the necessary feeling of being out of one's own neighborhood without ranging really far. I've lived at the Mark twice with my kids, each time during apartment renovations. My friend Isabel is the head concierge there, and they always take nice care of our family. (I spent one of the happiest Christmases of my life at the Mark, covered in hives, baking Christmas cookies on trays Jean-Georges Vongerichten let me borrow — the sugar cookies came out smelling like fish, which was entirely Jean-Georges's fault, but he ate them and very politely pronounced them delicious anyway, as did everyone else we shared them with--but that's another story)


City Kids on a Hill

Published by Wednesday Martin
I heard a mom shout, “William, give that snowball maker back. It’s not ours!” The owner showed this peculiar and meaningful artifact to me. What does it say about contemporary childhood and parenting?
I heard a mom shout, “William, give that snowball maker back. It’s not ours!” The owner showed this peculiar and meaningful artifact to me. What does it say about contemporary childhood and parenting?

We had a snow day in Manhattan. That is to say, there were a few inches of snow, and the Board of Ed declared it a day off for New York City public schools, to the jubilation of many boys and girls.