If you're a woman with stepkids, you might already know the answer. How are you and your husband or partner with kids celebrating Thanksgiving? With or without the kids? Together or apart? Your relatives, his, or both? Who's cooking?

Here's a piece I wrote for psychologytoday.com on holidays for women with stepchildren

Myth #1: Stepfamilies should look, feel and act just like first families. 

Myth #2: If you're not blended, you've blown it. 

Myth #3: Visiting kids should be treated like royalty when they show up. Make the holiday all about them.