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Happy Mother's Day

Published by Wednesday Martin
photo courtesy of Katharine Moser
photo courtesy of Katharine Moser

Happy Mother's Day! This is a photo from the Church Rock archeological site in Shasta County, California, a site where the native Wintu people lived and performed various religious and cultural ceremonies. The vulva sculpture was part of a birth altar. Thanks to my  stepdaughter Katharine Moser, an archeologist in training, for this image.


What Are Good Girlfriends (and Guy Friends) Good For? The Talking Cure Revisited

Published by Wednesday Martin
Hey lady, have you read the new research on siblings, friends, and stress?
Hey lady, have you read the new research on siblings, friends, and stress?

Women in stressful situations — does that ring a bell? — need social support. So call a friend and meet him or her for coffee and have a chat. Even if you don't talk about what's bothering you directly, it can make a big difference. Oh, and don't forget to read my latest post on psychology.com, about the newest research on siblings and social support!


Sticks and Stones...A Stepmother's Guide to Being Disliked

Published by Wednesday Martin
Being disliked takes a toll on women especially
Being disliked takes a toll on women especially

I recently wrote an article about Stepmothers and being disliked (look for it in the September Issue of StepMom Magazine). Tolerating that others may dislike us for reasons beyond our control, and in spite of our best efforts, is an important skill to develop.


Do You Do Too Much? Feel Stepped On? — How You Can End the Stepmartyr Cycle

Published by Wednesday Martin
Ever feel like even she might find stepmothering a trial sometimes?
Ever feel like even she might find stepmothering a trial sometimes?

Jacque Fletcher, author of the important and supremely helpful book Becoming a Stepmom and www.becomingastepmom.com, invited me to discuss "Stepmartyr Syndrome" with her several weeks ago for her terrific weekly podcast series. Here's the show. Have a listen and then tell me about it: Have you ever done so much for your husband's kids or your husband and his kids that you started to resent it? What were you doing? How did you change it. Are YOU a stepmartyr?


Tell Me About It — How Do YOU Balance Kids' Needs with Yours?

Published by Wednesday Martin
How do you balance your needs as a couple with the kids' needs?
How do you balance your needs as a couple with the kids' needs?


Susan Wisdom, LPC, is answering a question she hears a lot when she does therapy with couples in repartnerships with children: "How do we balance the needs of his kids with our needs as a couple?"