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A Divorced Dad Falls in Love — and Builds a Wall

Published by Wednesday Martin

Hi Readers, You know how I love Martin Babits, L.C.S.W., and author of The Middle Ground: A Couple's Guide to Renewing Your Relationship (http://www.amazon.com/Power-Middle-Ground-Renewing-Relationship/dp/1591026628/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s;=books&qid;=1256606628&sr;=8-1). Marty is a divorced dad, and here's what he has to say about a recent very important project — building a wall in his apartment once things got serious with his partner. The wall is going up today! Read the piece — and then leave a comment letting Martin know what you think of what he's doing:


Stepmoms, What was YOUR wedding like?

Published by Wednesday Martin
A wedding or commitment ceremony isn't always simple — especially when he has kids and an ex!
A wedding or commitment ceremony isn't always simple — especially when he has kids and an ex!

For women marrying or partnering with men with kids, the wedding or commitment ceremony can get complicated. Some women like Elizabeth Saitta (see post below) and I elope to keep it simple — while others go for the whole shindig. I get emails every week from women asking, "Do I have to invite my husband's ex to the wedding?" and "What if his kids have a meltdown?"


Elizabeth Saitta, Artist

Published by Wednesday Martin
The wedding dress — an overdetermined signifier for those of us who marry a man with children
The wedding dress — an overdetermined signifier for those of us who marry a man with children

I learned about Elizabeth Saitta's work on a trip to Boston. She is an art teacher married to a man with children from a previous marriage. She recently earned her MFA from the Massachusetts College of Art and Design.


Interview with Susan Swanson "On Step Radio"

Published by Wednesday Martin

Please tune in! — when I'm a guest on Susan Swanson's "On Step" radio show. Susan is a stepfamily therapist and director of The Stepfamily Center of Los Angeles. She is one of my favorite stepfamily experts, and you will enjoy her compassionate, smart take on stepfamily life. We'll discuss Stepmonster, stepfamilies, and more. And you can call in with comments or questions.


4 Steps to Nurture a Remarriage w/Kids

Published by Wednesday Martin
Your partnership with a man who has kids and an ex needs extra care and attention
Your partnership with a man who has kids and an ex needs extra care and attention


Check out this article on Belief Net. What steps do YOU take to nurture your marriage? I'm all ears...so post a comment on belief net or my blog.
xx wednesday


Is This Woman Wicked?!

Published by Wednesday Martin
Is Stepmom to Blame? Competition over money can make stepfamily life combustible.
Is Stepmom to Blame? Competition over money can make stepfamily life combustible.

Please check out my newest post for Psychology Today about the Astor trial.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stepmonster/200910/is-woman-wicked
Phillip Marshall has accused his stepmother, Charlene Marshall, of conniving, scheming, and pulling the strings. Basically, Phillip says, his Dad isn't guilty — his stepmom is. Have a look — and leave a comment!


Live Chat On Stepmom's Toolbox!

Published by Wednesday Martin
Live Chat Oct 13!
Live Chat Oct 13!

I'm delighted to be doing live chat, Q&A; and a Stepmonster giveaway Tuesday, Oct 13 with Peggy Nolan of The Stepmom's Toolbox. Check out Peggy's wonderful site for more details and hope to "see" you there!


Stepmonster Giveaway on Blisstree!

Published by Wednesday Martin

For those of you who'd like a shot at a free copy of Stepmonster (I know! I know! Twenty-five bucks is a lot for a book), check out the Stepmonster giveaway on Blisstree.com. All you have to do is read the review and then leave a comment about how/why having a copy of Stepmonster would help you: