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Dad's getting wed? How to cope as an adult stepchild

Published by Wednesday Martin

As Prince Charles and his lady wife celebrate their eighth wedding anniversary this week, Wednesday Martin hails their uniquely modern stepfamily and has some sage advice for how to manage being an adult stepchild.


Interview on Stepfamily Central

Published by Wednesday Martin
Talking through stepfamily dynamics with Rachelle Katz...
Talking through stepfamily dynamics with Rachelle Katz...

Dr. Rachelle Katz has a new radio show on Stepfamily Central and I was lucky to be her first guest. We talked about the word "blended" and the need for public support for and a public education campaign about what stepfamilies are really like. Hope you will have a listen...


Happily Ever After...

Published by Wednesday Martin
Today and everyday. Especially if there are step/kids!
Today and everyday. Especially if there are step/kids!


Maybe. On Valentine's Day, remember one key to a successful repartnership with children: prioritizing and nurturing the couple bond. Remarriages or reparnterships with children are remarkably fragile and rates of divorce and dissolution are high. Child-centric parenting and step parenting doesn't help. Too often, couples with the best intentions focus on the happiness of the step/kids of any age to such an extent, they forget to pay attention to their own. Turn that dynamic around today and every day.


Piling the pressure on women in stepfamilies this holiday season....

Published by Wednesday Martin
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season

I have heard from a number of you about Judith Graham's story in the Dec 24th issue of the New York Times health section. This is the kind of story the media loves, about "co-wives" who get along great and become BFFs. Sure, it's a nice and heartwarming story of one woman caring for another. Unfortunately, the media's fixation with these types of stories about "the ex wife and the new wife who are best pals," and the readers' comments — "Most divorced people I know stay friends after," etc. — naively and damagingly imply that repartnership with children is "easy" if everybody is just "nice." And that, if you don't have your parnter's ex for the holidays (or to your wedding), and if you aren't "close," there is something "wrong" with you.


From Horridays to Holidays — Tips for Step"families"

Published by Wednesday Martin
There is no one right way this holiday season!
There is no one right way this holiday season!

It's holiday time. And when we think holidays, we think family. Of course today, "family" is increasingly likely to refer to stepfamilies, the fastest growing domestic arrangement in the US and Great Britain.