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Happily Ever After...

Published by Wednesday Martin
Today and everyday. Especially if there are step/kids!
Today and everyday. Especially if there are step/kids!

Maybe. On Valentine's Day, remember one key to a successful repartnership with children: prioritizing and nurturing the couple bond. Remarriages or reparnterships with children are remarkably fragile and rates of divorce and dissolution are high. Child-centric parenting and step parenting doesn't help. Too often, couples with the best intentions focus on the happiness of the step/kids of any age to such an extent, they forget to pay attention to their own. Turn that dynamic around today and every day.


Piling the pressure on women in stepfamilies this holiday season....

Published by Wednesday Martin
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season
Don't let ridiculous expectations tangle you up this holiday season

I have heard from a number of you about Judith Graham's story in the Dec 24th issue of the New York Times health section. This is the kind of story the media loves, about "co-wives" who get along great and become BFFs. Sure, it's a nice and heartwarming story of one woman caring for another. Unfortunately, the media's fixation with these types of stories about "the ex wife and the new wife who are best pals," and the readers' comments — "Most divorced people I know stay friends after," etc. — naively and damagingly imply that repartnership with children is "easy" if everybody is just "nice." And that, if you don't have your parnter's ex for the holidays (or to your wedding), and if you aren't "close," there is something "wrong" with you.


From Horridays to Holidays — Tips for Step"families"

Published by Wednesday Martin
There is no one right way this holiday season!
There is no one right way this holiday season!

It's holiday time. And when we think holidays, we think family. Of course today, "family" is increasingly likely to refer to stepfamilies, the fastest growing domestic arrangement in the US and Great Britain.


Primates of Park Avenue: What We're Doing This Month

Published by Wednesday Martin
Fall is school application season….and Manhattan mothers (and fathers) are feeling the stress
Fall is school application season….and Manhattan mothers (and fathers) are feeling the stress

All over Manhattan, parents are applying to ongoing private and independent schools. It's an anxious rite of passage because we all want to get our children the very best education we can...and nothing is more stressful than feeling that others are evaluating your child. I wrote about the ongoing school application process for psychologytoday.com. Hope you will have a look... and leave a comment.